They Are Not Really Your Friends.
And this isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
I have a small circle of close friends and they’re honestly a huge blessing to me. The energy is equal and the love is genuine. They’ve become more than friends to me, they’re practically family at this point.
So far so good at least.
But as you’d expect, with adulting, we don’t have the opportunity to hang out as much or speak as much as we would like. Everyone is busy with their family, their career, post graduate schooling e.t.c.
So naturally, one would seek out new friendships where they find themselves; at a social gathering, in church, at work, in school e.t.c
But you’d soon learn, that It’s hard to make genuine friends as an adult.
Sometimes we fall into the mistake of calling people our friends, when they really aren’t. They’re colleagues, acquaintances, classmates. Because they’re acting friendly doesn’t mean they’re friends.
It is possible however, for colleagues to become genuine friends, I’ve had that happen to me a few times.
I used to get hurt when after leaving a job, I lost connections with people I thought were my friends. But I know better now and I realised that we were just partners, going through the same/similar experience for that period in time. The environment we were in, the place and the time was what made us bond and become friends.
It’s important to learn the difference between a friend and a colleague, so you don’t place expectations on them and get hurt.
I have learnt to not have the same expectations on someone I just met in comparison with friends I’ve known for years.